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Unbalanced Fatherhood: On the Verge of Absence and Unhealthy Control – Part 3

This is our final post in our series on unbalanced fatherhood. In the last two posts, we discussed the absence of the father in his children’s lives. In this post, we will talk about the other extreme: the father who exhibits unhealthy control.
We have all heard about unhealthy parental control or have even experienced this with our own parents. The common example that comes across from youth is that parents, fathers included, would like to see their children grow up to be either doctors or lawyers, ignoring their talents, skills, and desires.
But this desire for control goes deeper than this desire for success. Culturally, the father is more like a dominant figure rather than a leader and a picture of Christ. It goes even beyond this, as youth and children say their fathers would like to control every step and move they make. On the contrary, our role as parents, and especially fathers, is to help our children move from being dependent on us during childhood to being dependent on God…

Unbalanced Fatherhood: On the Verge of Absence and Unhealthy Control – Part 2

In our last blog, we talked about the crisis I’ve noticed in fatherhood. We also talked about the love between God the Father and God the Son and how this type of love is the perfect example of the fatherly love between a father and his children.
God blessed me by giving me the opportunity to serve a large parish. However, on Sundays, I probably see few fathers who are standing next to their children. I acknowledge that many of the boys are deacons, hence they have their own designated area, but this still doesn’t justify that very few fathers are caring for their children or young youth during the liturgical services by providing guidance or even simply praying next to them. Somehow, the role of the father in teaching and leading his children in the path of righteousness, worship, and orthodoxy has been on the decline and is missing in many families. We forgot the scriptures that tell us, “We have heard with our ears, O God, our fathers have told us, the deeds You did in their days” (…